It’s time for each of us to say what we mean and do what we say.
Day #94 of SanityWhy have we been conditioned to manage conflict when what it means is to pretend that it is not there? It’s kind of like people feeling they have to say everything is ok when they really feel their life is falling apart.
It is much easier and more socially acceptable to say that e everything is great than to let people know the turmoil you are experiencing–whether it is from finding out a friend has cancer, someone broke up with their long-term partner or you are simply not having that great day for whatever reason.
Think about how many interactions you have every day with people putting on a “polite” face and meanwhile they are worrying about a dying wife, a deal gone bad or whether they have enough vegetables to make a salad. There is a story going on inside most people that they don’t feel they can openly share as they fear being judged.
How did this happen?
Does it make sense?
Why do we accept it?
What if instead of putting on our happy face for everyone else, you started with your own?
What would you see if you looked in the mirror right now?
Are you seeing what you would like to see? How are you showing up? (good-bad-ugly)
Don’t get on a 30-minute call with someone and tell them you want to know them. Make the time to connect deeply with people. Throw away your schedule half a day a week or one day and see where life takes you. That is the only way to build opportunities or innovation. It cannot be forced. It needs to flow like nature.
That is also why Innovation should never be a department in an organization — unless you want the same old solution, with some new bells and whistles. That pig we keep layering more and more coats of lipstick on is simply getting annoyed. It is still a pig wearing lots of lipstick.
Infuse innovation into the lungs of the organization and have people to drive it in new ways (hence, the innovation part of the job). That is the opportunity to breakthrough and understand, for once, that true innovation happens through people. As Juan Francisco Tellez shares in the Beacon of Mind, it’s human-aided intelligence, not artificial, since humans created it. Imagine our world if we took our power back and realized that we control the next generation of jobs in the world and what work should look like and how human-aided intelligence can aid us rather than scare us.
We can create so much more in the world human-to-human with purposeful exepreinces when we can say what we mean; mean what we say.
As Alan Watts shared,
Thirty spokes unite at the wheel’s hub;
It is the center hole that makes it useful.
Shape clay into a vessel;
It is the space within that makes it useful.
Cut out doors and windows for a room;
It is the holes which make it useful.
Therefore profit comes from what is there;
Usefulness from what is not there.
Welcome to 2017 where we have 365 days to play, create and connect.